Truth #8 - Workplace

"To be successful, you have to be able to relate to people; they have to be satisfied with your personality to be able to do business with you and to build a relationship with mutual trust".George Ross

Anyone who works for corporate America knows how fickle it can be. From little johnny who works at Target as a cart attendant and wants to be a cashier, to the vice-president who wants the top spot of CEO.  People bitch about how unfair things can be because this person got promoted over that person.  Or this person got a bigger raise than that person who thinks they work harder.  Bitch, complain, cry, whine, talk shit, etc. takes up more time sometimes than actual work.  You didn't get the job even if you think you're qualified.  Your boss gave you a lousy job review that you think you didn't deserve? It's simple, and this is a truth.  The same reason a new CEO comes into a company and fires all the executives and brings in new ones that he knows.  The same reason a new coach comes in and replaces all the existing coaches with coaches he has worked with before.  But they both keep a few of the "old" team.  You know why?  It's not because all the old executives are worthless.  It's not because all the old coaches are incompetent. It's because of relationships.  The new boss, coach, supervisor, lead, senior, head cart attendant, etc. has relationships with the people he is bringing in. They are comfortable to them and do things their way.  They get along.  That's why sometimes an old executive or coach survives.  They either quickly built relationships with the new boss or had a previous relationship.  That applies to everything else.  If your boss isn't comfortable with you, not only because your not good at your job but also because you don't get along well, he will fuck you.  I didn't say it was fair, but that's the way it is.  Now, i am not the best relationship builder.  Otherwise, I would be a billionaire by now and not have time to blog.  But I know nothing else matters but the relationship.  People deny this to themselves because they have been with the company since the first brick on the first store was built.  Doesn't matter, "what have you done for me lately."  You didn't like your raise because you felt you did more work than little Janey co-worker because you think your boss doesn't like you as much. Right! Now you're getting it.  There are allot of people that can do your job, people in corporate America are expendable. But people still stick around.  I would rather say "stop messing with me for a month so I can look for another job."  That would be more realistic.  Easier for both sides. Cause most people would rather fight the tide.  You will lose.  Luckily, I think my bosses still like me.